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R2 – The final chapter

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Chapter 1 is here > http://adayinthelifeofindia.blogspot.com/2009/09/r2-introduction-chapter-1-early-life.html
In the last chapter we talked about how everyone entered the real world, and were looking for jobs now. See we were all B-com guys not the engineering people (most bloggers are engineers, also during my chatting days i realised that most people are engineers). so i guess we were to look for garib kind of jobs, marketing, sales those kind of stuffs, selling phones, sims, credit cards, financial products, some got into office jobs, accounting and booking keeping kind of stuffs. And R2 got in bill collection. I mean the recovery guys, who come asking for money if you haven’t paid your dues that kind of work.. and they get paid only 3 – 4 thousand. If you count the petrol that they burn then may be its only 2000 that one might get in his hand. And in this case it being R2 he smokes 2 to 3 packs of cigarette per day, 10 to 20 manikchands, and a bottle every alternate days. But he need not worry he was using his mothers payment. Now his mother’s payment was decreasing slowly, the bikes he bought was taken on loan, so that part was getting deducted. So when there was not enough money even after using his mothers salary, he would take money from money lender, at first he kept his bike as security and took the money, then asked me to give my bike as he don’t have a bike. I gave him. These private money lenders charge huge interest, now to pay this interest he took money from other lender, now he was unable to pay again. He took credit card in his mothers name and withdrew all that money to pay the loans, now the credit card payment piled up, he took personal loans in his mothers name, those were the days when credit flow was high, every bank gave pl within a single day plus his mother was in ONGC so it was easy to get loans, he took loan after loans, from money lenders, banks every where, as it turned out he was in 4 lacks of karja within 2 years.
He was afraid to go out, money lenders would catch him, they started coming to his house, his life became hell. He kept looking for more loans, he got some and paid some. He asked his mother to take loan from their employees co-operative bank, then he paid all the dues. He promised that he would never take a loan again. It seemed that he had learnt his lesson. During this times me and R1 weren’t earning much.
He used to spend a lot of money along with R1, i mean he spent a lot of money on R1 and he helped him a lot with money, that time R1 has promised that once he gets a good job, he will spend half of the money between them, and he said that a numerous time. Then R1 got good job but he didn’t keep the promise, he had his own reasons for that, and still today R2 will make a point about that promise.. He spent most of the money on his friends, and his friends were eager to exploit him. Thou i was not a party to that, nor a beneficiary but just because that he reached this mess because of his friends, makes a soft corner for him in my heart. Thats the reason i gave him money every time he asked. If i were to count all then it must around the price of a fiat palio. And if i count all the money i have given to different ppl i could be riding a honda civic now. And the reason i m talking about this now is that i have became big lukha now, not a penny i my pocket, all bills pending and all but money is going to come next month and all will be fine…
But R2 didn’t mend his ways, he started taking loans again slowly, and again it has reached the 4 lacks level, again he has asked his mother to take a loan and is now waiting for the money to come. The amount that now his mother gets is paltry because of the loan payment, bike loan payments and other loan payments, they dont have money even to carry on their normal expenses. His brother and mother have become critical against him, all the time there happens fighting in his house. He leaves the job then rejoins again, he is not stable, the people who started with him in bill collection are collection managers now. Whatever field one chooses there is always a chance to excel. I will tell you how 10th class pass R1 excelled and became an assistant manager in his introductory post. R2’s biggest prob is drinking and that has what led him to this mess.
But some times i feel pity on his condition, i could see the worry in his eyes, the feeling that there is no-body to help him, and with the shyness that he asks money from me, or the shyness with which he doesn’t ask money. You can see the shame, he wouldn’t look in the eyes, u can see the hero of the class hiding from people. He wore torn shoes while going to work, i saw and the shoe was worse than any bikhari would have worn. He didnt ask then, He came for walking, he said i wanted to jog, but didnt have shoes, and the chappals were sewn. I gave him my shoes, i said i dont need, walking can be done in sandals.
There is more to tell, but it will be added in future posts in between other topics..
http://adayinthelifeofindia.blogspot.com/2009/06/never-been-loved.html
http://adayinthelifeofindia.blogspot.com/2009/03/right-and-wrong.html
The above posts might be of your interest.
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Written by maya

October 3, 2009 at 11:12 am

Posted in friends, personal diary

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  1. this is what happens with most early age heroes of school ..i had afriend to gave up his life to alcohol and a gal ..faired badly in school …failed in almost all subjects in engg …took a year extra to complete the course and dusnt have a job now …its a common story of people who like to bliv that they are god !!

    vicious

    October 3, 2009 at 4:51 pm

  2. most engrs are bloggers ??? thats quite intg … but i can tell u while chatting many pretend to be engrs ( whatever mite b d reason ) !!!

    vicious

    October 3, 2009 at 4:54 pm

  3. Guess the job he got was poor, not his qualification. I mean, with that kind of education he had, many more thousands could easily be earned.Now, coming to spending, we all spend more than earn. And that makes our countrymen bad savers. Guess he can aim to hit big now that he's really suffering … can he?Oh btw, engineers are not as BIG as they were in sixties now! 🙂

    IdleMind

    October 3, 2009 at 6:56 pm

  4. @ vici i like it when u bring personal experiences with ur comments,, it adds up to the content..yes thts wht i noticed, i cud have proved with a poll if there had been enuf visitors here,

    Uncommon Sense

    October 3, 2009 at 6:59 pm

  5. @ idle.. he dropped out of bcom, which means he had qualification of 12th, if u r lookin for a job then 12th grade certainly doesnt help. which leaves only 1 field that will be marketing & sales whre he cud have made it, but he wasnt ready to do the hard work that it involves, the targets and all..Actually R1 and R2 intially started with sales job, but R2 left and took the easier one,, he wasnt ready to work hard..i think americans are the worst savers, saving rate of india is quiet high globally.. i doubt if he wud be mending his ways, bcas this is second time he is at it.. but who knows may be he cud make it big…

    Uncommon Sense

    October 3, 2009 at 7:06 pm

  6. @ Uncommon Sense – its a severe problem then … 12th grade pass doesn't help. And couple that with laziness, you have a deadly career cocktail!Americans may be worse, but they have nicer ways by which their government makes them save it. This country has serious savers too … most of these don't get exposed internationally. You need to visit them and see for yourself.Wish R2 makes it big … sooner enough!

    IdleMind

    October 3, 2009 at 7:31 pm

  7. i think its indeed a fact that most chatters are engineers. software side, to be exact. actually we spend almost all our time in front of the computer and its almost always hooked to high speed internet (at least at the work place)about early life heroes going down, even i was always the topper of the class and much was expected from me. you can still sense that i m trying to do so many things together. Work, family, writing, reading and breaking free. i m sure if i had concentrated my energy at one stream, i wud have _reached_ at the top. but no complaints. i kinda love the way i am right now. about R2, i think what he needed was better friends. friends who wud stop him in his self destructive path rather than just lending him money. His mom also messed up big time. she should have refused to give any insane amount of money to him.

    Chhaya

    October 3, 2009 at 9:10 pm

  8. @im : oh god …u n ur phrases "deadly career cocktail :P@us: he can try bpos if he can speak good english

    vicious

    October 3, 2009 at 9:28 pm

  9. was still thinking of your post as i went back to other blogs… so returned to continue..i was reading a book based on the destructive emtotions. the author had covered an interview series with Dalai Lama in that. the most resounding question of the conversation was _are we born with the desructive emotions or does our environment play a major role in it_ (my apostrophe key is not working hence using the _ )R2 cud have been an interesting case study. i cant help but think of my own life when i read this. i have almost nothing in common with R2 (barring the early life promises part) but still, i have been branded as anti-social/self-destructive/mutant/weird etc … i dont fight these tags, not anymore… yet i wonder, what exactly is the meaning of success? what exactly is expected of us?and the question will keep haunting me… what went wrong with R2. Would love to read his version. can u bring him onboard?PS: pardon my post-length comment

    Chhaya

    October 3, 2009 at 9:38 pm

  10. I cannot sympathize with R2. Sorry. But, I sympathize with his mother and feel her anguish. It is very simple for the world to blame her in part for the mess, it is easy to say that she should have refused. But, is it really possible? Mothers no matter how disgusted they feel about the bad deeds of their children, will help them when they are in distress keeping all the differences aside.I owe to my mother who has brought me to wherever I am today, which is far far (note the repetition) better than when she was the bread winner. But I still have to work hard to make myself a better person, and turn her dreams into reality (those that she had sacrificed for me). This sense of responsibility keeps me from getting into such mess. A little bit of introspection would have helped R2 I suppose?And I really don't believe that R2 is shy to ask money. I find it hypocrisy showing such emotions of embarrassment at asking for monetary help. From the post I read he asks for loan everywhere, that means it has been his usual exercise. His mother helped him get out of this mess once and he should have learned his lesson, and helped her repay the loan she took. Being ungrateful was the least expected.Please pardon my harsh words. I have seen my own uncle doing this. My mother and I used to feel frustrated, but as our duty we would help almost every time. I appreciate and commend you for helping his family. May God bless them.- Vittal

    Vittaldas Prabhu

    October 3, 2009 at 10:55 pm

  11. My best friend dropped out of college, he started drinking before me, womanizing, and doing all kinds of crap. While I studied and slogged my ass off through college and univ. Today he is earning more than me. Which is good and makes me happy for him because he worked hard. Very hard. He started on a low paying job and gradually worked his way to better pay. So, R2 can blame a lot of things, but most of all his desire for not working hard is his biggest enemy. Just my thoughts.N

    Nothingman

    October 4, 2009 at 6:29 am

  12. @ idle, ya, if he changes his attitude, gd thing will come to him@ chhaya, even most engineers wud have pc at home, during their college or school days itself..i would say success is always relative, if u have 4 friends and if one earns more or is happier with his work then he can b said to be sucessful..What went wrong is that, he didnt had any talent which is relavent. anyway i will ask him the question what he thing went wrong, may be the answer would be just a sentence..@vici he doesnt speak english much well, neither has an computer skills..

    Uncommon Sense

    October 4, 2009 at 11:04 am

  13. @ chhaya "are we born with the desructive emotions or does our environment play a major role in it" i would say its both.. sometimes the genes play their role and sometimes its the environment.. and if both paly their role, then its disaster..@ vitthal.. totally agree with you, mothers would do anything for their children, and i m sure his mother was helpless this R2 he is short tempered, broken tv twice at his home, when his mother refused to give money, or nagged him to stop his deeds,, his mother was certainly helpless..he had tried to change himself a couple of times, but he failed every time, His addiction to his nature, and alcohol. I m sure he has done a lot of introspection but he cudnt help.,.@nothing manworking hard and having the talent had worked for your friend, even if 1 doesnt have the talent but still works hard, he can too make it.. but R2 lacks both..@

    Uncommon Sense

    October 4, 2009 at 11:28 am

  14. If introspection did not help him, then I would say his desires are stronger than the realizations of introspection. If he doesn't mend his way any sooner, tragedy much worse will befall him. God forbid!Being a well-wisher you must have definitely held a mirror to him and asked him to face himself. But there comes a point when all that becomes mundane and futile. All I wish is for R2 to have a stronger will to fight himself, which without drastic measures is not going to happen.

    Vittaldas Prabhu

    October 4, 2009 at 4:18 pm

  15. Poor fucked up fellow!!!Randomly distributed privileges or may be he earned it ..

    Tarun Goel

    October 4, 2009 at 6:04 pm


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