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The importance of virginity

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Ok, now i have no idea how this is going to end or how i m going to begin also not to mention the irrelevancy of the above pic, its just that i liked it and thought a painting by ravi varma should be part of some post. I dont know much about the painting but somehow it represents technical virginity for me…

I m here going to talk about virginity in context of women only, virginity among among men is not important and would never be. Moreover i think its the right time to talk about the topic since we as a nation are chancing in respect to social normals. I dont think most people consider virginity as important these days, because existence of virginity has almost become mythical (i mean after a certain age).

If we look at the past, in any culture or religion importance have always been given on virginity. In those days it was common to think that your wife would be virgin because marriages were done at an early age. But in todays world marriages are delayed so the chances of finding a virgin becomes almost negligible unless one marries a very young girl.

The point is some times it does makes sense to want a virgin girl esp because sexual jealousy is an important factor of male ego where as in females emotional jealousy is more powerful. A survey was carried some time back where in the male respondents said that they would be more hurted if their partner was sexually involved with someone where as women said that they would be more hurted if their partner was emotionally involved with someone. So basically this proves that how important its for a male to have sexual exclusiveness the reason for this is simple because its directly related to the offspring. Whoever a women conceives the child with, it will still be her child. but a wife of a man if she is sexually involved with some one else  he might end up raising someone else’s child; thinking of it as his own. The problem here is evolutionary, every species wants to further its gene and does whatever possible to ensure that. Thats whats programmed into every biological creature, and i think thats what the whole purpose of life is. A species tries to replicate itself, so a part of his still lives even after he is dead. Thats natural and logical.

Thats where the importance of virginity comes, what if the wife has just fucked with someone just the day before their marriage and could be carrying someone else’s child, i mean thats a possibility, so it becomes important. A survey once carried in the US in the 60s or 70s finds that divorce rates were lower where the female at the time of marriage were virgin. Thou we cant derive any direct interpretations of this, but still its an important study.

Also sexual jealousy is an important factor, it becomes competitive because it becomes comparative. When a  man fucks a wife who is not a virgin the first question that comes to his mind would be is he better than her ex fucker?. He begins to doubt his performance, of his ability to give satisfaction which leads to further problems. But when his wife is virgin he doesnt have any competition, since it doesnt matter if his performance is plain vanilla since she doesnt know how the chocolate tastes like.

If we look into religious angle there is nothing to look into it, religion has been created due to insecurities of men, to put control over other, so the religious view on virginity is nothing but men’s insecurity. All they want is to control women and all the rules have been created keeping that in mind.  Because a women could be a dangerous think to have, its like fire unless you know to control it, it will burn you.

In the contemporary indian society, i certainly dont see lot of men who expects virgin brides but around 60% men want a virgin bride (according to AC neilson survey). Also a lot of clinics have sprung up offering hymen restoration and i do think they have lot of customers. The problem is worse in arab countries. They have also this tablet that they put in their chut so while having sex it burst and gives out blood giving the impression of being a virgin. These are common practices in chinese society also. I think more than men, women are worried of not having virginity if they are marrying the traditional way thru arranged marriages, in love marriages i guess its not much of a problem. But these things become a bigger problem later on, a husband having a non virgin wife could always doubt his wife..

Every problem brings an opportunity, so its an opportunity for those hymen restorators also there is an unexploited business opportunity here, why not make a matrimony website for virgin brides, i guess it should work. One could charge huge fees from the males. Virginity although is just a matter of skin in the chut but it has tremendous value. Whats the rate of virgins in the market, if u have to fuck a virgin you have to pay 50 or may be 100 times the cost of the same type of girl who is non virgin. There has been a lot of listings in ebay about people offering virginity and the biddings were unusually high. So one cant say there is no value of being virgin, if it can have economical value then certainly has social value.

To sum it up, nobody stays a virgin out of choice its just a matter of chance. so technically it doesnt matter if ones a virgin or not.



Written by maya

June 23, 2010 at 12:21 pm

Posted in uncommon

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  1. beautifull this post….

  2. One thing I learned from this post is the natural reason for sexual jealousy in men. It makes sense from evolutionary point of view. Had never thought about it.Whether you were sarcastic or not, but this business proposition for opening a matrimony website for virgins is indeed very lucrative. Like, if I had mind, capital, and enough expertise in that field I wouldn't miss the opportunity. What say? πŸ˜›Nobody stays a virgin out of choice its just a matter of chance. so technically it doesn't matter if ones a virgin or not.This was the much-needed line in the post. Good that you didn't miss it out :)Great uncommon-post, again!

    Darshan Chande

    June 23, 2010 at 7:50 pm

  3. @nouve.. thnx@darsh.. as i had said before, we dont realise how much of our actions are on autopilot mode..yes ofcourse its a gd opportunity, i wud hv started it, avoiding because of the big hoopla that will be created in the media..i dont want to end up them chasing me.. i prefer a peaceful existence..

    Uncommon Sense

    June 23, 2010 at 8:15 pm

  4. hmm..nice illustrative post…


    June 23, 2010 at 8:40 pm

  5. Its a mindset problem with an herd mentality where rational thinking simply does not exist.

    The Survivor

    June 23, 2010 at 10:43 pm

  6. though u summed up that its not important whethr a gal is virgin or not , lot of men still expect a virgin wife ….n u are absolutely right in saying that staying virgin is not a matter of choice , its a matter of chance


    June 24, 2010 at 12:23 pm

  7. Like you said…men expect virgin wife, but opening a business model based on this would be condoning such regressive attitude


    June 24, 2010 at 1:38 pm

  8. @rohini… thnx@survivor.. i wud rather call it a default mentality@vici.. i m always right@abhi.. business is a venture to generate money, as long as it is legal its social implications shouldnt matter..

    Uncommon Sense

    June 24, 2010 at 2:09 pm

  9. religion is created to control females.virginity is not important but honesty is


    June 24, 2010 at 2:24 pm

  10. bang on target buddy

    Ankesh at Talk

    June 24, 2010 at 11:35 pm

  11. i really liked ur post .. the whole lot … and I couldn't agree more on the male-ego/jealousy thingexcept when u summed up … u say its not a matter of choice, but chance. This is suited for people who try really hard and fail, and this sums up a good percentage of virgins but I'd like to think or atleast believe … that it is upto their choice …


    June 25, 2010 at 6:15 am

  12. @sm.. honesty about virginity shouldnt be a issue in first place@ankesh.. thnx@anusha.. glad u liked, the privilege of choice depends on chance..

    Uncommon Sense

    June 25, 2010 at 11:18 am

  13. baate to bahut acchi karte ho maya saab…but really, who the fuck needs honesty? Women lie, men lie, no one is truthful. You live with what you get. Simple as that.N


    June 26, 2010 at 3:25 am

  14. Chance is a big probability, so I guess it really doesn't matter if someone doesn't remain a virgin. After all, a chance, right? So, let it be that way … at least makes sense at least we are concluding our post with such a line.Would be happier in case this subject is considered a chance by itself. No point worrying so much abt changes in body, after all who cares abt baby tooth, they come and go, right?So goes virginity, some day … for many. Why worry abt it?


    June 28, 2010 at 8:03 pm

  15. @nothing.. baate to hum hamesha acchi hi karte hai.. and what u said is absolutely true..@idle.. true nothing to worry about,, but a blogger needs to write, write whatever shit he can get his mind laid on..

    Uncommon Sense

    June 29, 2010 at 11:29 am

  16. nice post…….explains a lot


    July 3, 2010 at 8:14 pm

  17. "Virginity causes cancer."

    Thomas C B Chua

    July 30, 2010 at 12:44 pm

  18. the problem lies with the mindset these ppl have developed through years n years…but other than that… the post is really interesting.especially the snap.

    Idiot Mind Working

    August 7, 2010 at 3:12 am

  19. u r right.u have covered almost all scenarios..I'd give another perspective to it..how virginity was considered important..this is from hindu marriage traditions..if u know..they do kanya dhaan..and as per the rules of dhaan.u shld never offer things which are spoilt..like suppose u r offering yesterday's afternoon food to a beggar now..it doesnt qualify to be a dhaan..cos it is waste to u… similarily..the father of a girl when he does the kanya dhaan..if the girl is not a virgin..then the dhaan is not worth..so thats how the mindset was set..and has been there for centuries…. well this is not what I am saying..my understanding of the hindu marriage dharma..


    September 22, 2010 at 7:53 pm

  20. hiinice read.. virginity is overhyped

    A S

    September 28, 2010 at 1:20 am

  21. Tres intiresno, gracias


    September 28, 2010 at 2:39 am

  22. neither me but every male expects his going 2 be bride 'a virgin'…but virginity is 1 thing u can't make out whether she had really indulged in chudai before…she might loose her virginity if she happens 2 be a sportsperson…so if u don't get a virgin wife don't dig the past else ur life will become miserable…just enjoy wht u hv in present n try to give us more than 100% satisfaction πŸ˜‰


    October 1, 2010 at 3:43 pm

  23. Nice posting ,,,But one thing to remember that in this changing world how one can be thing about virginity.Today's generation is so advance & 75% of male & female are involved in sex before their marrige.Sunil

    Stock Pulse

    November 1, 2010 at 1:19 pm

  24. I'm glad I don't live in your backwards culture. Sex is natural for women and men.


    May 27, 2011 at 8:35 pm

  25. Yes, I agree with you. That is really valuable information you are trying to share here. I like the concept you have chosen here.

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