The importance of virginity
Ok, now i have no idea how this is going to end or how i m going to begin also not to mention the irrelevancy of the above pic, its just that i liked it and thought a painting by ravi varma should be part of some post. I dont know much about the painting but somehow it represents technical virginity for me…
I m here going to talk about virginity in context of women only, virginity among among men is not important and would never be. Moreover i think its the right time to talk about the topic since we as a nation are chancing in respect to social normals. I dont think most people consider virginity as important these days, because existence of virginity has almost become mythical (i mean after a certain age).
If we look at the past, in any culture or religion importance have always been given on virginity. In those days it was common to think that your wife would be virgin because marriages were done at an early age. But in todays world marriages are delayed so the chances of finding a virgin becomes almost negligible unless one marries a very young girl.
The point is some times it does makes sense to want a virgin girl esp because sexual jealousy is an important factor of male ego where as in females emotional jealousy is more powerful. A survey was carried some time back where in the male respondents said that they would be more hurted if their partner was sexually involved with someone where as women said that they would be more hurted if their partner was emotionally involved with someone. So basically this proves that how important its for a male to have sexual exclusiveness the reason for this is simple because its directly related to the offspring. Whoever a women conceives the child with, it will still be her child. but a wife of a man if she is sexually involved with some one else he might end up raising someone else’s child; thinking of it as his own. The problem here is evolutionary, every species wants to further its gene and does whatever possible to ensure that. Thats whats programmed into every biological creature, and i think thats what the whole purpose of life is. A species tries to replicate itself, so a part of his still lives even after he is dead. Thats natural and logical.
Thats where the importance of virginity comes, what if the wife has just fucked with someone just the day before their marriage and could be carrying someone else’s child, i mean thats a possibility, so it becomes important. A survey once carried in the US in the 60s or 70s finds that divorce rates were lower where the female at the time of marriage were virgin. Thou we cant derive any direct interpretations of this, but still its an important study.
Also sexual jealousy is an important factor, it becomes competitive because it becomes comparative. When a man fucks a wife who is not a virgin the first question that comes to his mind would be is he better than her ex fucker?. He begins to doubt his performance, of his ability to give satisfaction which leads to further problems. But when his wife is virgin he doesnt have any competition, since it doesnt matter if his performance is plain vanilla since she doesnt know how the chocolate tastes like.
If we look into religious angle there is nothing to look into it, religion has been created due to insecurities of men, to put control over other, so the religious view on virginity is nothing but men’s insecurity. All they want is to control women and all the rules have been created keeping that in mind. Because a women could be a dangerous think to have, its like fire unless you know to control it, it will burn you.
In the contemporary indian society, i certainly dont see lot of men who expects virgin brides but around 60% men want a virgin bride (according to AC neilson survey). Also a lot of clinics have sprung up offering hymen restoration and i do think they have lot of customers. The problem is worse in arab countries. They have also this tablet that they put in their chut so while having sex it burst and gives out blood giving the impression of being a virgin. These are common practices in chinese society also. I think more than men, women are worried of not having virginity if they are marrying the traditional way thru arranged marriages, in love marriages i guess its not much of a problem. But these things become a bigger problem later on, a husband having a non virgin wife could always doubt his wife..
Every problem brings an opportunity, so its an opportunity for those hymen restorators also there is an unexploited business opportunity here, why not make a matrimony website for virgin brides, i guess it should work. One could charge huge fees from the males. Virginity although is just a matter of skin in the chut but it has tremendous value. Whats the rate of virgins in the market, if u have to fuck a virgin you have to pay 50 or may be 100 times the cost of the same type of girl who is non virgin. There has been a lot of listings in ebay about people offering virginity and the biddings were unusually high. So one cant say there is no value of being virgin, if it can have economical value then certainly has social value.
To sum it up, nobody stays a virgin out of choice its just a matter of chance. so technically it doesnt matter if ones a virgin or not.