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Understanding cruelty with abhishek’s murgi

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Well abhishek has nothing to do with cruelty but the idea to this post was generated when i was commenting on his post. Read the post here (third paragraph) . As you see abhishek describes about the chicken killing thing and he doesnt feel bad about it, neither do i feel bad. I have also witnessed numerous occasions of chicken or other animal being killed, and it may not necessarily generate a bad feeling or remorse in either me or abhishek because we have got conditioned to it. But for an average american who buys ready made shit from a super store in packed condition and who might not have actually seen a chicken being killed could be shocking. There is no exact method with which we can categorise an incident as cruel or non cruel, it will depends on the conditioning we have gone through.
I will just take you through the various experiences that i have experienced. My first experience of cruelty would be from my childhood days, there was a friend named kamlesh he was good with us, he was around 5 years older than us, he was very helpful and all but he was a bully with other kids, he would beat them without any reason, one instance i specifically remember is that he caught hold of a kid without any reason and beat him and spat in his mouth. He was certainly not bad with us, but he did these with others. Another instance was with my mama he was very harami towards his childrens, he beat them a lot, often on small errors. I felt bad about that. In another instance one day we were at krishnas place, and his wife made food he sat to eat, he felt that the food tasted like shit and called his wife and slapped her and threw the food on the floor and made her eat from the floor. Also have seen him beating the shit out of his assistant chotu. But would i call krishna or my mama a bad man or a cruel man. May be i wont, because i know about the numerous good in them, times when they have been helpful, times when they are really good.

Cruelty is often targeted towards a particular section and if we ignore that section the person whom we are calling cruel could actually be a very good person. Like a person who likes his kids and can go to any extent to save them, or to satisfy their needs but at the same time that person beats his wife all the time. Or a person who might be good to everyone around him but is particularly cruel with his childrens. Or a mother who might be a good wife, but couldnt stand her own children and beats them so mercilessly k you begin to doubt if she really is their mother. Or a guy who physically assults his girlfriend but is ready to die for his friends.

What i believe is that people are never wholesomely cruel, they often hate or show cruelty towards a particular people and most of the time they are not aware of the cruelty they are doing. They say that Nazis were cruels to those jews but would they show same cruelty when they are at home, they wont. They might be a very good father, a good son, and a good husband, very caring and loving. Most probably they dont know they are being cruel. A muslim goes and bombs a group of people, he doesnt think he is cruel, Some stupid american soldeir bombs a village in afghanistan they dont think its cruel, and he gets a warm welcome for this feat back home. The butcher in china kills a dog, he doesnt think its cruel but most of us will term the act of killing a dog cruelty. One of the blogger who used to comment here wrote once in his blog about how he killed puppies by driving car over them, and he seemed to be very proud of that incident, and his happiness knew no bounds by doing it. Is he really a cruel person or is it something else, i guess he didnt knew that he was cruel. A muslim stones to death an adulturating women he doesnt feel he is being cruel, a Saas burns his bahu for dahej she doesnt feel its cruel, the husband joins her he doesnt feels its cruel. A old man who is very generous to the community and everyone around and marries a very young virgin and forefully fucks her, he doesnt feels he is being cruel or doing anything wrong.

When i say cruelty it may not neccesarily mean the same to everyone, once in the past i made a reference about the shanu ka ground incident when one of my friend pressed the boob of a girl, i remember i got some negative comments, well i didnt feel anything wrong about it, thou its actually wrong and i myself would never do such a thing, but i certainly can stand there and see a girl being molested. Why is that, because i have just got conditioned towards it, i know its wrong but it doesnt hits me as hard as it should hit. Its only after i re-thought about the incident i realized k, the act that i wrote about in a funny tone is actually an act of cruelty thou i was not directly involved with it. And when i say we dont feel anything wrong when we see a murgi being killed i m talking about the same conditioning. There are people who might utterly feel wrong about it even if it tastes good for others, but that same person who says its cruel to kill a murgi might very well wont think twice to burn her bahu.

Since we live in a society we are often influenced by small things that we dont know about, a man who beats his wife is certainly not cruel and this particular tendency of his might be a result of some influence he might not be aware of. Thus awareness is very important, we need not just think about the way we think, we need to think of how everybody thinks, we need to get out of the conditioning that we have been subjected to.

To sum it up, the difference between osama and obama is just of the letter s and b. They both are doing the same thing, they both are involved in killing innocent people, they both are fighting for their ideology. The muslim world would say obama is cruel and rest of us will say osama is cruel. Since we own the media we tag osama as a terrorist and obama as a leader. But truly speaking there is not a cent worth of difference in either of them. If i were to think someone as a hero i would certainly see osama as a hero, a david fighting with the goliath US. And the WTC attack, it was sheer genius, totally robinhoodish. Thou i m anti muslim, i respect osama.

I dont want anyone to derive any conclusions out of this post. Its just that i m mildly drunk (thou i dont believe in moderation in drinking) and i thought to test my brain functioning while being drunk.


Written by maya

February 2, 2011 at 6:45 pm

Posted in uncommon

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  1. yes its all about how the mind is conditioned…by the society, by family, by peers…what is the acceptable standard of cruelty and to whom we can show our cruelty…


    February 2, 2011 at 11:09 pm

  2. Finally, some uncommon sense again! Won't say I agree with everything, but a lot of it makes sense. Another thing, for the first time seen full names of people in your post. 😛

    Darshan Chande

    February 2, 2011 at 11:19 pm

  3. @abhi absolutely @darsh.. these kind of topics cant be fully correct, there will always be exceptions. All i can do is to show a alternative view point to the readers.Only names of people who dont use internet are used, always.

    Uncommon Sense

    February 3, 2011 at 11:26 am

  4. ahan!!! social awareness… new flavor.. :)I love chicken and I normally tell the butcher to cut a fresh one in front of me.. what's wrong in that..I don't feel a thing.. after all if i am going to eat it. why the hell I should care about how it got dead


    February 3, 2011 at 12:38 pm

  5. in this whole post , the only thing that stayed with me is krishna's behaviour towards his wife .. i pity these woman who cannot stand up to such devils … he definitely is cruel and heartless.. infact he is humane …liked your take on the difference between obama and osama !uncommon sense is back !


    February 3, 2011 at 2:45 pm

  6. Osama and Obama…I believe they are poles apart. Obama can never be Osama and Osama can never be Obama. I respect Obama for the kind of person he is…Michelle Obama is not an exemption…

    Shalet Jimmy

    February 5, 2011 at 1:14 am

  7. Impressed by your understanding and truly agree that awareness is the key to everything.Having said that it does not mean that a cruel person does not have a good side. A human being has many facets of emotions when one overpowers the others,trouble looms.An act of cruelty is still an act of cruelty no matter how good the person might be to others. It does not nullify his act. I also believe that when a person commits an act of cruelty he/she is very much aware of what they are doing is not "morally right". There is a conscience in everyone.I dont think conditioning has anything to do with it, all it requires is a will to break the barriers which sadly enough very few people have it.

    The Survivor

    February 5, 2011 at 2:41 pm

  8. We define some standards, and when someone violates them, we term the violation as an act of cruelty. Humans are animals as well, just that their instincts are not always defended by their fellow humans. That's when the concept of being cruel emerges.Wife-beaters may be cruel, molesters may also be … but the actual cruelty is in man killing fellow men. From the time of Mahabharat to the modern day genocides, humans had relished in killing others, violating the freedom of their fellow beings.I will refer them as acts of cruelty violent enough to stand against.


    February 6, 2011 at 6:26 pm

  9. hmm…interesting post…nice blog…will keep coming for more

    Raam Pyari

    February 6, 2011 at 11:50 pm

  10. @daydream.. no yaar, its nothing to do with social awareness@vici..certainly that kind of scenes stays with you, but when he did that he was not aware of the cruelty he was doing, he used to live among jhoppadpatti walas and its not much of a shock to see him behaving like tht..but he has changed now as he moved from lower to a middle class, now he is afraid of his wife like everyone else.. it doesnt take time to change ones perception,,@shalet.. yeh thats what they say in the west and in the muslim world they belive the quiet opposite of it@survivor.. its not like that, if everyone has an equal conscience then they would feel guilty of the act they commited, but as i listed the act of cruelties, none of the perpetrators will feel any guilt..they might not be aware of it being cruel, but they dont feel it as being cruel,, they need to be made aware that its actually cruel then only they will change.. @idle.. certainly killing can be an act of cruelty but we always consider our soldiers a hero for killing others,, it all depends on perception.. when as a society we are validating killing of people from across the border it does tells something about perception and cruelty..@rampyari.. thanks

    Uncommon Sense

    February 7, 2011 at 2:51 pm

  11. You are mildly drunk..Gwad!! Stop being so cruel to yourself…Go get drunk to the fullest..Please..stop torturing yourself this way dude,..chicken..seriously dude there was a time when I lived on it.but these days..I am turning into a veg..:(*sigh.Aint that CRUEL!!!I mean..life is being soo cruel to me dude!


    February 7, 2011 at 7:19 pm

  12. fuking awesome blog……!i like this open mind attitude, had a nice time reading..


    February 9, 2011 at 10:42 am

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