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Ladki dekhing #2 and other news

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I had to start numbering this series of posts because it seems like its going to take a long time before i get settled with this business of ladki dekhing. As its is evident from the surrounding discussions that these days one needs to search for girls for a year or two before anything gets finally decided, they say the girls have got too much selective these days. I would believe in that, since a few marriages had happened after i came here and it was said that they have been looking for girls for a while before it got fixed. I would be making a commentary on the marriage market or the marriage scene here once i get more into this ladki seeing thing, need to have as much knowledge about this before i say anything, it wont be right to do a half baked post.

The movies i would say had a good amount of influence on me, in all these movies they show that some guy goes for ladki dekhing to a heroine’s house, and they show the ladka to be a bad guy or ugly or spineless person.. and heroes they dont go for ladki dekhin because they have to do the love marriage thing, so i kinda a feel like i m doing some injustice by going to see a ladki, and that the ladki might be cursing from inside k why these chutiya people have to come all the time to see me and i have to parade in front of them,, yeh thats what they typically show in hindi movies. But kya kare ab shaadi to karni hi padegi. I thought k love marriage are hard and complex and this arrange marriage thing would be easy, thats why i never fell in any ladki business because i simply thought it all to be a big jafa to be avoided, but what i m realising is that this arranged marriage thing is as annoying. Its not easy as on thinks.

So we went to see the girl through some references, the girl was good looking but i kinda felt intimidated.. i dont know what but there was something in her face that was making me uncomfortable, she had this constant smile like the gods that come in tv, that unwavering smile of wiseness. Kinda looks like goddess, i was feeling afraid. She is doing some course in nursing, and as you know nursing is a negative profession, and if its so then why do girls still do nursing.. all questions that are not easy to answer.  In the marriage market the value of a girl kinda decreases if she is a nurse, well value of male nurse also decreases. May be it has to do with people thinking that its a dirty job, well its actually a dirty job, i wont do that job. But then they are able to do it then its good, its good for everyone and these kind of people are very important, yet we all see them as a negative profession. The girl seemed to be too carrier focused, and i dont like that, i hate everyone who likes to work. Why would anyone want to wakeup every morning to go to work, when they have the option to not go atall, one of the things that i wont understand. I need my wife to stay at home.. i was telling the same thing to my sis the other day, and she was saying k you keep calling yourself liberal and all yet you are having such orthodox demands. Well i have my reasons for it, i dont think its workable for two units in the same family to pursue same goals, its conflicting. Every person in the family has to do a specific work, else there is no division of labour.. it doesnt work that way, i dont think husband and wife both working is a good idea. Well i can always choose to not work and let the wife do the working, then the wife should have that much earning to sustain a family, and since my standing in the marriage market is not that good i cant get such a highly paid wife. And for goodness sake i live in a village, what job will the ladki do here..or am i expected to go with her wherever she works. Reminds me of a mallu movie, where the hero is jobless and uneducated like me and has to go wherever his wife gets job, that was a good movie.

Anyway we will talk about that topic in detail some other time..at that time you can try to contradict me. CSN1 is also going to where every mallu goes, yes gulf. So he needs to get some medical tests done for that he has to go to kerala, i m going with him along with one other friend. So will be meeting all old friends again, called them today, and yeh called threesome uncle too, he was so happy. Seeing him happy i felt good, i m always in wonder how i have the power to make him happy so easily, he just needs a single nod from me and it becomes the best day of his life. Funny world. So will be first going to baroda, then to surat where uncle stays, then to meet Y and D in ahmedabad, Y was asking to re-start my old mlm business. He says he had talked to some people who would be investing. Lets see might say yes, but i dont like this parternship and investor thing. There were always people who had believed in my abilities and wanted to fund some of my ideas but i never agreed, because there are days when i dont like to work, and there are times when i leave projects in between, i dont want them to suffer loses or want them blaming me for their loses. I work when i want to work and i leave when i dont want to..anyway lets see if i can work from outside just as some consultant and sleeping partner. I need to get rich asap, but i wont do anything that causes a bit of uncomfort to my way of life.

More stories when i m back, have a nice time till then

P.S. lol i lost 2 followers beacuse of the last post. Seems like it really made some people uncomfortable.


Written by maya

February 21, 2011 at 6:56 pm

Posted in personal diary

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  1. I didnt had any problem even with the last one and even this 1 is wonderful… i loved it. u r so real and true… this is what every1 thinks.

    AbhiLaSH RuHeLa

    February 22, 2011 at 1:27 am

  2. interesting and funny post! i guess you should watch this video… Sure it will give you some more insight :Phttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kkx04yuJJ80


    February 22, 2011 at 10:08 am

  3. @abhi.. thnx, glad u liked@dudo.. very interesting video, liked it.. will do a marriage specific post soon,,

    Uncommon Sense

    February 22, 2011 at 11:05 am

  4. you have very contradictory thinking…u don't want to work and you want to get rich…that can only happen if you were born rich…nurse, huh 🙂


    February 22, 2011 at 3:17 pm

  5. for the first time US dint liek your post ..your take on the gal not working n stuff .. it had been US stuff , had you said , both units working makes a conflict , so she can work and i can stay at home !!!(which actually makes sense given your scenario )


    February 22, 2011 at 4:24 pm

  6. @abhi.. yeh i know, i dont want to be like those rich people who in the race of becoming rich forget to live their life..@vici.. didnt quiet understand wht u r saying.. actually i said k she can work, and i will ssstay home.. but the question is can she earn enuf for the whole family..

    Uncommon Sense

    February 22, 2011 at 4:35 pm

  7. if one person doesnt earn (as u say u dont ) , how does it matter how much the other person earns ?? whatever lil she earns should be good enough !


    February 23, 2011 at 1:15 pm

  8. This one made me laugh. A typical comedy as I would put it … not sure whether other readers felt that way.'Working wives zindabad' is the buzz word … so be with it. In case you don't get a working wife, you will have to do all the work … remember that? hehehe.Get a nurse as wife, she will serve her husband well!


    February 26, 2011 at 5:58 pm

  9. smiled like goddess.. lol.. and about the last part.. write for ya.. remember we call it blog.. web log.. or better ur views… :)and you write well

  10. @vici.. oye.. i do earn. How can i live without earning.. I might have said in one of the post that i dont earn anything.. but thats not in actual sense its in business sense.. some months one doesnt make profit.. doesnt mean that all months will be like tht..aur aisebhi i had already mentioned in the post not to contradict me in this post kyu k i will be doing a post for that topic separately..@idle.. yeh thts all women's liberation things.. good for most people but wont be good for my wife.. have reasons for tht..really glad that u found it funny, i always want to make ppl laugh.. but i dont have tht skills in writing.. its mostly about technique.. i have to do with normal narration..@dream absolutely these are just personal views..

    Uncommon Sense

    March 3, 2011 at 7:20 pm

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